Narcissists often charm their way into our lives, only to discard us when we no longer serve their needs. After all, what Narcissist wouldn’t love life of complete and total control? As the old saying goes, “Narcissists never learn.” This means that even after a narcissist has dumped you, they may still come back—oftentimes seeking revenge in the form of the silent treatment. Do you know how to deal with a Narcissist who comes back after being dumped? In this article, we will discuss the different ways a Narcissist may react and offer tips on how to best handle the situation.
What is Narcissism?
Narcissism is a mental disorder characterized by an excess of self-love and a lack of empathy for others. People with narcissism are often unable to see themselves in the context of relationships and can be very demanding and entitled. They may also be manipulative and seek admiration from others.
While most people recover from a Narcissistic break-up, some individuals become so wrapped up in their own self-image that they are unable to function normally without their partner. This can make them very difficult to live with, as they may expect complete obedience from you and be unwilling or unable to compromise on anything. If you decide to end your relationship with a Narcissist, it is important to remember that you are not alone and that there is help available.
Types of Narcissism
There are three main types of narcissism: grandiose, entitled, and exploitative. Grandiose narcissism is the most common type and occurs when people believe they are superior to others. Entitled narcissism occurs when people think they deserve everything they get and believe they are not accountable for their actions. Exploitative narcissism occurs when people use other people for their own gain. All three types of narcissism can lead to problems in relationships.
Grandiose narcissists often have a difficult time admitting mistakes or feeling empathy for others. They often expect others to fall at their feet and adore them, which can be very frustrating and overwhelming for those around them. Entitled narcissists are often self-righteous and refuse to take responsibility for their actions or feelings. They may expect everyone around them to do everything for them without any effort on their part. Exploitative narcissists take advantage of others without regard for their well-being or feelings. They may promise things that they cannot or will not deliver, or make demands that are too much to meet. All three types of narcissism can be destructive in relationships, but grandiose and entitled narcissists tend to be the worst offenders because they see themselves as above average in every way.
Signs You Might Be in a Relationship With a Narcissist
There are certain red flags that indicate you may be in a relationship with a narcissist. If you experience any of these signs, it might be time to end things before they get worse.
1. You feel like you’re always on the defensive.
Narcissists thrive on control, so if you always feel like you’re trying to prove yourself to your partner, it’s probably not going to end well. They also expect constant admiration and adoration, which can make you feel like you have to keep up with their high standards all the time. If this isn’t something that is really important to you, chances are your relationship with a narcissist isn’t going to work out.
2. You feel like everything is about them.
If your partner is always talking about themselves and nothing else, it can be really draining mentally and emotionally. Narcissists don’t care about other people – they only care about themselves and their own needs and desires. This can lead to feeling like you don’t matter or that your opinion doesn’t matter at all – two things that are guaranteed to sap your energy away over time.
3. They act entitled and infantile around you.
Narcissists love feeling powerful and in control, so if they start acting like a spoiled child around you then it might be time to bail ASAP! They will often demand special treatment
How to Deal With a Narcissist
If you have ended things with a narcissist, there is a good chance that they will come back after dumping you. This is because narcissists are very addicted to your attention and love. They need to be the center of your life and feel like you are always dedicated to them. Dumping them can be very traumatic for them, so they may try to get back with you in order to regain control over your feelings and reactions. Here are some ways to deal with a narcissist who comes back:
1. Be prepared for the Narcissist’s Return
If you’re expecting the narcissist to come back, make sure you are mentally prepared for their return. This means having realistic expectations about how likely it is that they will change their mind and come back to you. You don’t need to be desperate or think that they will change overnight – but knowing what to expect can help ease the anxiety that may arise when they do return.
2. Don’t Get Taken In By Their Stage Act
The narcissist may try to put on a different persona when they return – this is known as “the stage act.” However, don’t let this fool you – the narcissist is still exactly the same person inside. They may be trying to show off different sides of themselves in order to win your affection again, but don’t fall for it. If the narcissist tries too hard to charm or impress you, it’s probably just another way of manipulating you
How long can a narcissist go with no contact before they reach back out to you?
Narcissists are notorious for taking a period of time after breaking up with someone before they reach out again. This is often done in order to gauge the person’s reaction and see if they have changed their mind about the breakup. Narcissists often believe that people will change their minds if given enough time, which is why they may wait months or even years before contacting you again. However, there are some cases where a narcissist will reach out sooner rather than later.
If you’ve been cut off by your narcissist without any contact whatsoever, it can be difficult to know what to expect from them. In most cases, a narcissist will try to re-establish contact in some way or another. This could involve sending flowers or emails, trying to get in touch with friends or family members or even appearing at your doorstep unannounced. Remember: a narcissist is never truly gone, and they will always want to control and/or manipulate you. So whatever contact they make should be taken with a grain of salt.
Will a narcissist come back after discarding you?
Narcissists are cunning, manipulative, and self-absorbed individuals who often require constant admiration and attention from others in order to feel validated. When a narcissist is rejected or cut off from their support network, they can experience intense emotional pain and may become desperate to win the love of the person who left them. However, contrary to popular belief, most narcissists do not automatically bounce back after being discarded by a partner or friend.
While it is possible for a narcissist to rebuild their relationship with someone who has ended it, this process often takes time and patience on the part of the narcissist as well as the person they have hurt. Narcissists are generally very self-centered and tend to view relationships as contests in which they are always on top. If a partner opts out of this type of relationship, it can be extraordinarily difficult for them to regain footing.
In general, narcissists are unlikely to change their behavior based on one momentary loss or offense. Instead, they usually require sustained pressure and abuse over an extended period of time before they will alter their behavior in any significant way. This means that if you want to ensure that your relationship with a Narcissist will not be influenced by their past treatment of you, it is important not to give into any type of short-term thinking or reactivity
Do you suddenly become more attractive to the narcissist when you go NC after he discarded you?
The answer to this question is complicated. There are a few factors that can play into whether or not a narcissist will come back after dumping you, including your self-esteem, how secure you feel in your own self-worth, and how much control the narcissist has over your life. Generally speaking, it’s likely that the narcissist will come back if he or she feels that they still have some sort of power over you or if they think that you’ll still be able to provide them with benefits or services. However, it’s important to remember that no one is impossible to break away from and there’s no guarantee that the narcissist will ever change his or her mind about you. If you’re feeling insecure about the situation, it might be helpful to seek out support from friends or family members who can help provide guidance and encouragement.
How does a narcissist react if you accept the narcissist’s discard and not beg them?
Narcissists are often very confident in their own abilities and view themselves as superior to others. If you reject this belief system and beg the narcissist to come back, they may feel humiliated, like they’ve been rejected. They may react with anger, rage, or contempt. Additionally, they may try to control or manipulate you in order to regain your love or approval.
After a Narcissist has dumped you, there is a good chance that they will come back. The silent treatment may work in the short term to punish the Narcissist, but over time it will likely make them want you even more and cause them to act out in ways that they wouldn’t have done if you had been responsive. It’s important to remember that not all Narcissists are alike – some may actually respect your wishes and stay away, while others might be emboldened by your hostility and continue trying to contact or even date you despite your refusal. It can be difficult to make this decision emotionally, but it’s important to weigh all of the possible outcomes before taking any action.